Understanding Betrayal Trauma

There is one sentence I hear in my counselling sessions more than almost any other after the discovery of infidelity. "I honestly feel like I'm losing my mind." It is usually said with embarrassment. Almost as though the person sitting opposite me believes they should be coping better. They apologise for crying so much, for asking the same questions over and over, for checking phones, replaying conversations and struggling to get through an ordinary day. Many tell me they hav

"I don't even recognise myself anymore." If you've found yourself saying those words after discovering infidelity, you're not alone. Many people expect to feel hurt after betrayal. What they don't expect is how completely it can affect every part of their life. Suddenly you can't sleep. You can't eat. You struggle to concentrate at work. Your mind replays conversations over and over again. You question your own judgement and wonder whether you'll ever feel safe again. If this